My research question stems from a further, more fundamental, yet evasive question: how can we find our purpose in life? It started with the idea of finding happiness, but I quickly realised that it could be the suffering loop.
Today, many of us live with a sense that something is missing. Each of us harbour our own struggles and frustrations, and sometimes we resort to giving up in order to find a sense of ease in our life, though this often leaves us unfulfilled- like a thirst that you’ve failed to satisfy. We may at times find ourselves so exhausted by the sheer relentlessness of life, that we have created the concept of burnout syndrome.
For those of us who had been taught to prioritize and idealize hard work, the 2010 concept of ‘Yolo’ burst onto the scene like an oasis. ‘You Only Live Once!’ rationalised our consumerism and became a mantra for the would-be workaholic. Like Tempus fugit Carpe diem. Yolo was a call to arm for those who had denied themselves enjoyment and light relief.
The latest self-improvement trend for teens and people in their 20s is so-called ‘brain hacking’. This trend takes its cue from a self-improvement trend called dopamine detox, which reduces the brain’s dependence on dopamine by cutting out dopamine-stimulating factors or addictive behaviours for a period of time. In its current iteration, it takes the form of a digital detox to stop unconscious scrolling, although it can also involve cutting out sugary foods and graphic images. The goal is to reset the pain-pleasure balance by cutting off stimuli.
Simon Sinek says that anything worthwhile in life requires constant investment. The results of this take a long time, and in our current culture of convenience and accessibility, it’s easy to get caught up in the futility of not achieving what you want immediately. Therefore, we are essentially re-training ourselves to cope with delayed gratification; the ability to voluntarily withhold immediate pleasure and tolerate the ensuing frustration. In light of this, reading self-help books or announcing your plans in advance of their enactment can be de-motivating. Affirmations, though potentially personally validating, have the potential to inhibit a person’s sense of dominance over their own life. Manifestations similarly take the onus away from the speaker and project it onto the universe, rendering the individual a passive entity.
Our culture is increasingly preoccupied with positive feedback loops, in which our brains form pathways in response to positive affirmation in the outer world. This theory posits that we need to start a trend of positivity, and that in self-development, even in flow, reward is key to eliciting new rewards. Think positively and you will achieve positive things, which in turn, make you think more positively and therefore achieve further positive things. This essentially argues that we need to reduce the release of dopamine for long-term rewards.
However, it seems that the nihilism of the Epicurean school, after Ataraxia, has reared its head once again, in that we are once again seeking pleasure through pain, as the Stoics did. We must therefore ask ourselves where Apatheia – the pursuit of nirvana beyond desire- fits into to this modern maelstrom of pleasure seeking.
Balancing pleasure and pain is the ultimate goal. I believe that when we can accept both the sweet and the sour, we allow ourselves space to enjoy the beauty of life in all its aspects.
New age again?
New age spirituality combining them with pseudoscientific promising.
“self-care, breath, relaxation, a new state of being, a vision of the future instead of the memories of the past, let the thought become the experience, let the experience create the emotion”
“It sounds like it’s science, it sounds like scientific evidence, but it’s not.”
When the crowd didn’t see results, They blamed themselves for not working hard enough, for letting too many negative thoughts slip into their consciousness. There was no room for questioning whether the method was flawed or didn’t work. Anyone who didn’t see success simply wasn’t a true believer. This is the way cults work on people looking for miracles.
-the desire for alternative solutions.
-self-acceptance instead of hyper self-management: liberation
-a way of dissciating from reality we live in, but we have to live in this reality.